Probably in most cases if you had been honest you would have gotten what you wanted anyway, without hurting anyone. At least if they were hurt you wouldn’t be responsible.
All women are not floating around thinking every man they date is Mr. Right..or even wanting him to be. Some are content with Mr. Right Now. And some do know when games are being played and participate willingly.
And some may be playing head games with you… quite often women are good at getting exactly what they want.
Still, honest to honest. Seems to be the preference for many of us.